3 Tips to Combat the Pressure of Valentine's Day
As an intimate apparel company, we obviously understand the impact that Valentine’s Day has. A lot of feelings, opinions, and emotions can come with this holiday—some people might think of romance, love, and excitement, while others might find the opposite to be true. According to Health Line’s relationship expert, Wendy Walsh, Valentine’s day also comes with a lot of pressure. In fact, they go so far as to say that, “the number one emotion felt on Valentine’s Day is probably pressure.” Unfortunately, in the world of intimate apparel, that also seems to be true, maybe even more so. Women feel pressure to buy a certain style or even a certain color of lingerie based on societal expectations and what they feel like they’re supposed to look like. If that wasn’t enough, there’s added pressure when it comes to buying the perfect gift or planning the perfect outing. The words “romantic” and “sexy” are thrown around constantly, always implying that you’re not romantic or sexy enough. We’re here to shed some light on these issues and talk about how you can combat this pressure.
Make Your Own Definition:
In an article released by Elle magazine, titled, “A Brief History of Sexy Lingerie,” they went through the centuries, beginning as early as the 1700s, and showed a variety of styles that were considered “sexy” or “romantic” at the time. The dictionary defines “romance” as, “a quality or feeling of mystery, excitement, and remoteness from everyday life,” while the word “sexy” didn’t come into play until the early 1900s and has an even more vague definition: “excitingly appealing; glamorous.” Do all of the “sexy” lingerie styles depicted over hundreds of years from different societies fit this definition? Wearing corsets for a woman were an everyday occurrence at one point in time, so it can hardly meet the requirements of “remoteness from everyday life,” right? I’m sure every one of these styles falls short of being either romantic or sexy to at least someone. That’s why the styles are constantly changing. There was everything from corsets to night gowns to bloomers to full-skirted petticoats, and they all made their way in and out of style in exchange for the new, “sexiest” piece. The point is, when it comes to fashion, sexy and romantic are relative terms. What makes you feel sexy might be someone else’s biggest source of anxiety and vice versa. All that to say…
Wear What You Want:
New Love Times interviewed a slew of men and women, asking them about Valentine’s Day; here’s a few of their responses. One girl writes, “I hate the colors and the cheap chocolates and the pressure that it puts on people.” Another interviewee writes something similar: “I think it is a commercialized scheme to make people buy fleeced red and pink crap!” And, last but not least, one woman says, “I hate it because I have to wear this leopard lingerie that I repel!” There definitely seems to be a theme when it comes to people’s top sources of anxiety about Valentine’s Day. Just because it’s Valentine’s Day, it doesn’t mean that you have to wear red or pink if that’s not something you would typically go for. If the thought of wearing bright colored or flashy lingerie makes you anxious, don’t do it. Similarly, if you’re more comfortable in something that provides coverage—say, a boyshort versus a thong—then who says you can’t rock that instead? This might sound like an obvious solution (and maybe it is), but, clearly, it’s an issue that keeps coming up in women of all ages. Bottom line, if you’re feeling uncomfortable and not yourself, it won’t be an enjoyable time for anyone. Skip the anxiety and go for what you like.
Do What You Want:
Finally, when it comes down to it, don’t force it. If you’re not into over-the-top romantic gestures or dinner at a fancy restaurant, that’s okay! If you are, that’s okay, too. One interviewee from the previous article we mentioned puts it this way, “A lot of pressure, dude! If I can be honest, all I ever want to do on Valentine’s Day is to watch Netflix and sleep!” Similarly, according to Health Line magazine, out of over 2,000 responders, 58% of people said they would be “OK” with spending Valentine’s Day alone. Another 10% said that, “they’d actually be happy, mainly because they wouldn’t have to buy anything or dress up that day.” If you’re single or taken, finding what works best for you in your lingerie choice, how you define romance, and how you celebrate the day, even if that might mean something different than everyone else, will relieve the unnecessary pressure and maybe even dread of Valentine’s Day.